The SFB

Random musings from a Gen X life lived on the edge… of nothing except Lake Erie. 70s and 80s pop culture and music.

  • To All the Boys Part 3

    1986 and ’87, Geneva, New York. Ready for the spring formal for one of the fraternities, maybe Phi Sig, at Hobart College. In my thrifted dress, haha, and my grandma’s jewelry. And a really interesting shade of blonde hair. But my tan is looking good! Ha ha! Lol! I thought I could do this in Read more

  • Bobby…

    Well, Bobby Weir. Where to even begin. How are we supposed to live in a world without Bob Weir? How amazingly fucking lucky were we to have been on this fucked up planet with such a divine human being and magic maker. What a fucking privilege. I love, love, love the Grateful Dead with my Read more

  • It’s the End of the World as We Know It

    And the rabbit hole I fell down while reminiscing about this PERFECT song. It’s the end of the world as we know it and are we feeling fine?  If you were in college in the early to mid 80s R.E.M. was everything.  I was reminded recently that It’s The End of the World As We Read more

  • To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before

    I may or may not have been studying for finals here in the spring of 1986. Part 2: The College Years  “Boys and girls and music. Why do they need gin?” Annie, It’s a Wonderful Life Everything fun happens at night.  Especially a summer night. When you’re young and fun, all the good stuff happens in Read more

  • To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before

    The confluence of music and attraction. This is part 1 of what will probably turn into a three part saga, LOL. I have to broadcast a warning before anyone reads this. And maybe I am being presumptuous but… if I have dated you, loved you, lusted after you, or had any romantic or semi-romantic relationship Read more

  • Gen X Christmas tunes were THE best!

    Just a small sampling of songs we sang at the top of our lungs! Back in the day as they say, and by that I mean the early 80s, us Gen Xers had our own Christmas songs- and we freaking loved them.  For one, you could only hear them during the month of December.  No Read more

  • 1994, I Miss You and Your Music.

    Where have 31 years gone? A VERY blonde me in 1994. Oh my missing collagen. And eyebrows! Lol! On a recent road trip I spent a good number of car-bound hours tuned into Lithium on SiriusXM.  What a time capsule.  It got me thinking about what an absolute bounty of music came out in 1994.  Read more

  • Mysteries

    Can they be solved? Do I want them to be? Someone I sort of know a little through the wonder of social media inspired me to write about mystery. That person is a mystery to me. I have found it difficult to meet new people in real life, especially when you reside in a small Read more

  • Late August musings

    Back to school, 1980 style. Exactly forty five years ago, September 1980, I began my freshman year  of high school. Ninth grade. I was fourteen years old and generally a sassy pain in the ass. At least I was to the extremely patient and generous adults in my life.  Thank God they were able to Read more

  • Friends? Chums? Cohorts? Pals? Alter egos? Allies? Buddies? Confidants?

    NOT S OR F OR B today- just contemplating relationships I started this blog in the late winter of 2024 as a way to sort through the process of trying to reclaim the core of who I am, of who I used to be, and to figure out how to move through the world as Read more